Advice From My Friend’s Therapist

After going to an initial session with a new therapist my friend called me up to rave about what he had told her. She said that she had immediately felt better and that he had put a lot of things into perspective for her. The one thing that stood out the most for me was one piece of advice he gave her:

“You should be acting ten years younger than your age.”

I played around with the thought in my head for a few hours; i’m certain when he said that he didn’t mean for her to behave immaturely, but then what did behaving ten years younger mean, because the minute I picture myself behaving ten years younger than myself a wave of calmness and relief washes over me. Eventually, before I fell asleep, I figured that ten years meant more fun, caring less, not as much stress or as many responsibilities. If that was what he meant then that’s a plan I can get onboard with.

As an experiment, for the next week try to think, act and speak like you are ten years younger and then come back here and tell me what you think!

Tackle Anxiety (Tip #1)

Make a list of all your problems.

Literally.

To me stress is like a tornado, it starts out with a certain problem and suddenly it’s one emotion after the other, joining together and spinning into something bigger until days have passed and i’ve turned my small concern into a massive storm that’s going to destroy everything in its way.

What I found to be very helpful is to make a list of all your problems. Get a pen and paper and start numbering them; the first thing you’ll realize is that they’re a lot less than you imagined. In fact, it’s probably only one or two things that are causing you all the anxiety.

Next, under each problem make a list of all the bad outcomes you’re worried about and beside that, possible solutions or plans of actions to take if that “worst-case scenario” actually happens. Acknowledging your fears and creating a basic plan of action will help you in tackling your anxiety.